Witnessing the Birth of a Negative Belief

A couple of seasons ago, I was at a soccer field watching my then 9-year-old play with her team. Sitting next to me was a mother who not only had a daughter on the field, but she also had an 8-year-old, 2-year-old, and an infant with her.

Being a mother of three children, I know we all have days when we’d win “Mother of the Year” and days when we would be the last person in the world to accept it that day. So what I am going to say next doesn’t come from a place of judgment, but more from a place of observation.

The two year old kept wandering away. “GET OVER HERE,” mom would yell, “I have a game to watch.” Then when that didn’t work (after the third or fourth time) she would stalk over to the little girl and drag her back.

After this happened a couple of times, the next time she dragged the girl back she sat her down hard and said to her, “Why don’t you ever do what you are told? You KNOW better. How STUPID are you? Grow up and do what you’re told. You better start listening up.” And on and on. After the screaming stopped, the little girl sat and didn’t move while Mom watched the last half hour of the game without saying anything to her.

First and foremost, my heart hurt for this little girl. I offered multiple times to hold the baby, so the Mom could pay more attention, but she’d just give me a cheery, “Oh, I’m just fine!”

But what I really became aware of was that not only was the little girl receiving all these harsh words, but the infant on her lap was soaking it all in too.

As someone who helps adults heal their underlying beliefs, it struck me how ingrained our patterns are. Here was a seven month old and a two year old soaking in all their Mother’s words and making decisions based on them.

Now, I can’t know for sure, but some of those decisions might be:

I better do what’s right, or I’ll get yelled at or punished.
There’s a right way and a wrong way to be.
I’m a bad person.
I can’t ever do anything right.
In order to get attention I have to be perfect.
People in my life are unpredictable; I better walk around on eggshells to keep them happy.
I’m not worthy of someone paying attention to me.

These are the exact same beliefs that end up being roadblocks to life in general and business specifically, later on. Imagine trying to step out into new skills with your business with the belief, “I can’t ever do anything right” running in your subconscious.

If you find yourself stumbling over the same issue time and time again, have some compassion for yourself. The roots of these old beliefs, habits, and patterns can run very deep. Not only do you have your own experiences, but our cells carry the DNA of our extended family and some of the stuff that we carry wasn’t even ours to begin with. Each time we are wounded, a part of ourselves becomes rooted within our system, at that age, continuing to experience the wounding.

This is exactly why energy work is such an important component to moving forward.

By working at the level of the energy system and the subconscious mind, we can heal all these old pieces without having to know exactly how they started. We can also heal the younger versions of ourselves, heal their wounds, and help them see what they couldn’t see as a young child.

By doing all of this, you free yourself from the old, old patterns that unconsciously continue to run the show of your life.

I watch so many business owners struggle unnecessarily against these ingrained patterns; running a business can be SO much easier. Aren’t you finally ready for it to be easy?

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

The & # @ ! Will Hit the Fan and That’s Okay

Have you heard people refer to the “breakdown before the breakthrough”: that place of intense discomfort (and sometimes just plain old fear and despair) before reaching a new level of personal or business development?

But, what creates the breakdown?

Before the breakdown, there’s another step first: making a decision to leap forward. To take that next step in your business: writing that book, becoming a speaker, setting up a brand new healing practice, creating that new product.

When the decision first is made, wow, life feels really amazing and energizing.

And then all the parts of you that are more comfortable in the old way of life (yes, even if the old way of life is full of lack) start screaming and trying to sabotage all the action you are taking towards the new exciting step.

Sabotage can look like procrastination, family emergencies, relationship trouble, illness, accidents, unexpected expenses, technology breakdowns, indecision, other people telling you your ideas don’t have merit, and many, many, more.

If you don’t know what to do to get those objecting parts in alignment with your vision, they win, and you end up staying stuck and not making any forward progress.

Here’s another analogy: Picture placing a great big cooking pot over a blazing open fire and then walking away.

At first, the fire warms the water. Then it begins to softly boil. Then it becomes a rolling boil. Without any attention from you, it boils over and the fire goes out.

Making the decision about what you want lights a fire in your energy system and starts the energy flowing. The Universe listens and begins to send you all kinds of experiences that match this new vibrational reality you’ve created.

The conscious part of you that asked for these changes is ecstatic.

The unconscious parts of you that hold onto your old stories and beliefs start to panic. They start softly and eventually begin yelling. Those vibrations also reach the Universe and the Universe listens and begins to send experiences to match these vibrations.

This is the breakdown. The water reaching its boiling point. The proverbial &#$! hitting the fan.

If you pay more attention to the experiences sent from the old parts, their fear and worry continue to grow and eventually overwhelm and put out, so to speak, the vibration of the new energy.

When this comes up, recognize it for what it is. See the pain, the fear, or the discomfort as a sign you are on the right track, you are creating the necessary energy to fuel your vision.

Get curious about the sabotage, about what old beliefs are being revealed to you. Clear those old beliefs, stay in alignment with the vibration of the new vision, and you will take a huge leap forward in your business.

Sometimes you can do this on your own. Sometimes you need a partner. If you are tired of consistently starting the fire and asking for your business to leap forward, but somehow the fire always goes out before you can reap the rewards, connect with me. I’d love to help you put your gifts out into the world in a much bigger way.

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

The Secret to Getting to the Next Level of Your Business

Heart-based, spirit-based, purpose and passion based businesses are all built around helping other people in one form or another. And, for the most part, these kinds of businesses (including my business) are built out of a problem that you had yourself.

The only way to help others is to help yourself first. You don’t have to be embarrassed that you aren’t “as far along” as you’d like. You also don’t have to be perfect in order to help someone else.

However, if you want to keep moving your business forward, you absolutely must continue to heal the core problem you help others with, within yourself. No matter what level of business success you have achieved, the more clarity you have yourself, the better you’ll be able to help others.

For example:

  • If you coach people to write books, you must continue to heal your ability to express yourself.
  • If you are an artist, you must continue to clear your connection to and expression of your creativity.
  • If you coach people to follow their passion, you must allow yourself to deeply connect to your passion and be more and more comfortable being who you are and living from your passion.
  • If you help people reach prosperity, you must more deeply heal your relationship to and understanding of prosperity.

The clearer you become, the more effective you are in the work that you are here on this planet to share and the more attractive you are to your ideal client. As a result, you business grows.

You can take as many courses, attend as many workshops, participate in as many high-level coaching programs as you have funds in the bank, but if you aren’t doing your inner work, your success simply isn’t going to happen.

To get to the next level of business, you must bring yourself into internal alignment with that level first.

The easiest way to do this is by transforming the old thoughts, beliefs, memories, and other energetic patterns that keep you stuck right in your current pattern. Gaining clarity and healing deeply may feel intimidating; but with the right coach, this kind of healing unfolds beautifully and you get to step into the next level of doing the work you love.

How does that sound?

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

Don’t Waste High Level Coaching

Have you ever wondered why some programs, products, and coaching work for some people and they don’t for others?

How many Internet marketing products have you purchased, only to see your business stay the same?

How many coaching programs have you participated in only to stay stuck in the same place?

How many “workshop in a box” products have you purchased, only to find the final measureable result is a decrease in your bank account?

Don’t get me wrong: growing your knowledge and understanding of business structure and tactics is key to creating a profitable business.

However, there is no product created, no mastermind available, no mentor good enough to wave a magic wand and create results for you if your internal programming, your underlying beliefs are standing in unconscious opposition.

I’ve been seeing an alarming trend in high level coaches who at this point tend to blame the client: they just aren’t motivated enough, they just aren’t clear enough, they just aren’t committed enough, they must want a hobby and not a “real” business.

I feel this is completely missing the point: this is a standard stage of growing a heart centered, purpose based business. Expect it. Rejoice in it because it means you are getting really close to what you want.

The answer isn’t that you just need to power through the fear. The answer isn’t that you are a failure. The answer isn’t that you shouldn’t have signed up for their program.

The answer is: you need to bring your internal programming into alignment with what you want to create.

Each of us carries personal responsibility for moving ourselves forward; to begin to recognize when we are stuck in a whirlpool of negative feelings / stagnation due to our internal programming, and then take the steps to get re-aligned; take the steps to transform the underlying beliefs that hold us back.

If you find you aren’t getting the results you want from high level coaching or other types of programs, it is time to stop and get really curious and ask yourself: what are the underlying pieces of my programming that are holding me in place?

Take the steps. Get help if you need to; this is often when an external guide can be really helpful.

When you take these steps, you’ll find clarity, drive, and inspired actions come without any effort. You will be well on your way to creating your fertile business.

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

Do You Really Have All You Need?

Have you heard the spiritual platitude, “You already have everything you need”?

Up until about a week ago, that phrase was a thorn in my side.

Many times, I could truly believe it; and at others, it almost brought about a feeling of despair: “If I truly have all I need, where is it? What’s wrong with me? Why does everyone else ‘get’ this, and I don’t?”

Then I had an experience that proved to me, without a doubt, I really do have everything I need.

I’m taking a year long energy mentorship. We’re learning to clear chakras, auras, cords, sub-personalities and more. These are phenomenal tools to help clear away all the gunk that accumulates in our day-to-day lives, which keeps us from connecting with the deepest part of ourselves. (I’m beginning to add this work into my one-on-one private client work with good success! Watch for more information about this coming soon.)

In our last class experience, we worked on clearing aspects. Aspects are simply parts of ourselves that are characteristic of certain thought patterns, or our personalities. Aspects can look like helplessness, powerlessness, procrastination, anger, abandonment, and more.

What is amazing though is for every negative aspect we carry, we also carry the positive. We have it waiting for us. It’s right there.

While I was receiving work, I could very clearly feel the negative part of the aspect; the positive was only a ghost of a feeling. However, the more the negative aspect was healed, the stronger the positive aspect became, and the more real it felt.

Now as I go about my day-to-day life, I very strongly feel the positive aspect and the negative is simply a ghost of a feeling. I can’t tell you what a difference it has made in my daily personal and business life.

The point of sharing this with you is: We have everything we need inside. It’s not just a platitude. The more gunk that gets cleared from our energy system, the easier and easier it becomes to connect with that wise, deep part of yourself; the part of you that remembers its Source.

When you are in connection with this part, life and business unfold so brilliantly, so effortlessly, so easily. Sound good? Sound believable?

For any of you that may be doubting, let me be your witness, your first-hand observer: You have everything you need, right inside. It’s just waiting for you.

Ready to uncover it?

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

From Tragedy to Connection

Recently we experienced a tragedy in our community. A 16-year-old friend of my daughter chose to take her own life just after school finished for the summer.

My heart and soul continues to ache for her family, for my daughter, and for whatever the situation was that created this young woman’s complete despair.

When I allow myself to connect with Source, I know this experience is part of a much bigger vision and deeper meaning than is possible for me to know. And yet, that doesn’t ease the ache and pain of this moment.

As I allow myself to slip into the observer role, I can see I am trying to do everything possible to ease — or more honestly, cover up — the pain. Eating. Movie watching. Book reading. Anything to distract myself from the raw ache at the center of my core.

What were you taught about feeling emotion from the significant people in your life?

Feeling was not encouraged in my family. We were very head/mind oriented in my family; feelings were not supposed to be shared and if you felt bad, you were supposed to quickly find a different attitude.

But, why would you even want to feel pain? Why would you want to open yourself up to the depth of difficult emotions?

Your emotions are your connection to Source. Emotions are your connection to your vibration. Emotions are your connection to your body. Without these connections, you cannot co-create your life. You cannot engage in creating a soul-satisfying life.

When you don’t feel your emotions, you push them deep inside where they sit, vibrate, and continue to draw to you experiences that match the emotions. They are also huge energy drains, which draw vital life-force away from what you want to create.

Making the choice to lead a Soul-satisfying life and creating a business through your purpose isn’t always easy. However, it’s always rewarding in the end. Feeling your feelings is an absolute requisite to reach that rewarding end.

So for now, I sit and cry. I journal. I write. I feel everything. I remember to reach out and love my family. I have one more opportunity to stay in the flow. To consciously choose.

I am deeply grateful for such an amazing gift from this beautiful soul’s short journey. I am certain that everyone else whose life she touched would have another gift to share.

Love and blessings to you and your whole family, Laura.

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

Cover-ups that Affect Your Business

One of the core tenets I teach to my private clients is this: how you feel is an important message from Source. When you listen to these messages, you will leap ahead in your business and you will create a business that makes your heart sing.

Yet, feeling more is often one of the most difficult pieces of homework I give my clients. Many of us will do ANYTHING it takes not to feel, so we’ve gotten really good at covering up those sensations.

Recognize any of these cover-up behaviors?

  • Over-eating
  • Over-spending
  • Long periods of being stuck, no forward movement
  • Constant motion, always being busy
  • Escaping to books, movies, TV, Social Media
  • Procrastination
  • Under-earning (and debt)
  • Drama in relationships

Our feelings are incredible clues to the underlying beliefs and thoughts that block us from moving forward. From my own personal journey to feel my feelings, as well as talking with clients, there seems to be several consistent reasons for not wanting to feel.

  • A belief we need to be happy all the time in order to get the Law of Attraction to work.
  • “Negative” feelings flat out don’t feel good. We’re conditioned to pull away from pain.
  • A sense that once you start feeling, you’ll begin to become overwhelmed and dragged under by the sensations.
  • Judgment that says you “shouldn’t” be feeling what you’re feeling.

Do you recognize yourself in any of these? When you learn how to tune into the message of the feeling instead of just the feeling, you learn none of these has to be true. In fact, the so-called “negative” emotions we work so hard to resist actually carry the most power for moving forward.

When you allow yourself to truly tune in and listen to your feelings, you can use the whole spectrum of emotions (negative or positive) to leap your way forward to the business and life that your Soul desires.

Jennifer Bloome is the Prosperity Alignment Healer. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperity they desire. Ready to heal? Email to schedule a free 30-minute “get acquainted” session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks.