End Money Damsel in Distress Syndrome

Have you ever sat alone at night and wished for the winning lottery ticket numbers?

Have you ever begged, cajoled, or demanded the Universe just GIVE you the money already?

If so, you might have “damsel in distress” syndrome.

This morning I was thinking about some habitual thoughts that have poked their heads up from time to time for me and suddenly, I realized with those thoughts, I was acting like a damsel in distress.

That was a really uncomfortable awareness.

I am a strong, independent woman. I am at Mt. Holyoke graduate. I’m a freaking double Huntress (in the Soul Language paradigm). And I was waiting for money to save me.

Part of me saw money as the knight in shining armor. The one that was going to erase all the pain. The one that was going to erase all the suffering.

But it wasn’t showing up the way I wanted it to. And it made me feel like I had been left behind by the universe. That I was the “broken” cog in the giant Universal wheel.

However, what I can see now is money was being my knight in shining armor, just in a different way than I had ever imagined.

Because I didn’t win the lottery, because I didn’t get some crazy influx of cash, I had to do the only thing that was really ever going to work in the first place: I had to change my relationship with money.

I had to honor my own connection with divinity. I had to claim my gifts. I had to claim my voice. I had to show up in a clear current and conscious way with money.

Doing this has led to infinitely more happiness than simply being gifted the money.  Not because it was harder, but rather because it reconnected me with the true source of my Beingness.  From that connection, all is possible — money and more.

Do you know that scene in Pretty Woman? The one at the very end where Richard Gere is climbing up the fire escape with the umbrella and bouquet of flowers, terrified of heights but doing it anyway?

Julia Roberts meets him halfway down. He asks, “What’s next, after the brave prince has rescued the princess,” and she says, “She rescues him right back.”

Relationship.  Connection.  Showing up.  Consciousness. Being a true partner with money.

That’s the powerful antidote to damsel in distress syndrome.

Jennifer Bloome is a Soul Abundance Guide, Energy Healer, and Master Soul Language Practitioner. She teaches people a new language to communicate directly with their Soul, so they create a flow of Soul-Based Abundance that is in alignment with their gifts, talents and true nature. Ready to learn the language of your Soul? Sign up for a free Money Language Translation Session to learn one of the money languages of your Soul.

Politics, Money, and Love

I’m not really one to get too political. I choose that mostly because I know we create the strongest influence in the direction we want by holding our own centers; BEING the change we want to see in the world (and then taking inspired action). I can’t follow the political “game” and hold my center. So, normally, I don’t.

However these are not normal times.

The political climate is filled with so much hate, classism, and what feels like down-right meanness. And, so much of it is driven by greed. Money (and the power that comes with it).

Perhaps that is an oversimplification and I know there are other driving forces, but I am struck by what people do to other people for the sake of money. I find myself wanting to say human beings can be so cruel.

Rocks my ability to hold my center, truth be told.

And yet here’s what I know. If I lose my center, I contribute to the “madness” of the world by adding my anxiety and fear to the Collective. That doesn’t serve me and it doesn’t do anything to serve the world.

So what do I do? What’s anyone to do?

What if we all learned to bring ourselves and our relationship with money up into the consciousness of Love? I’m not talking romantic love, I’m talking about the consciousness of Love. What David Hawkins defines as one of the higher level emotions connected with power. Here’s what he says about Love:

Love is a state of being. It’s a forgiving, nurturing, and supportive way of relating to the world. Love isn’t intellectual and doesn’t proceed from the mind; Love emanates from the heart. It has the capacity to lift others and accomplish great feats because of its purity of motive.

If we would tolerate no less than the consciousness of love in our interactions with money, what would that do to the world around us? With enough momentum, I believe it would radically change the world in which we all live. Imagine the consciousness of Love living everywhere where there was greed, anger, shame, and power-grabbing?

A naïve view? I used to think so. But I believe that is the purpose of this time. To create SO much contrast that we have to make a shift.

And it starts with me. And with you. And with our individual relationships or agreements with money. The beauty of this process is the more you shift toward Love, the more abundance naturally finds its way to you. Not a bad side effect, eh?

What are you willing to change in your agreement with money to move closer to the consciousness of Love?

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

Does Money Require Worthiness?

I’ve been thinking a lot about money and why money flows with ease to some and with considerable hardship for others.

One of the sticking points is around our beliefs about worthiness.

Money flows in copious amounts when a feeling of worthiness is present; however, worthiness is not required for money.

All that is required for a flow of money — or any other manifestation really — is expectation and non-attachment. While each of these may not be simple when you have a history of not enough money, both are simpler to achieve than deciding you are worthy of money.

Let me say more about that.

When you believe (and it is usually at the subconscious level, not the conscious level) that you must be worthy to receive money, a tangled web is immediately woven. How does one become worthy of money? Do you sacrifice? Do you do good deeds? Do you only ask for a small amount? Are you only going to use the money for “good” or in the “right” way?

See? Super tangled.

Money doesn’t care if you are worthy. Actually, money doesn’t care about anything other than flowing where the receiving is open.

Expectation opens receiving: expecting money to flow to you in larger and larger amounts. Non-attachment opens receiving: letting go of the form in which money comes.

The more you embody the understanding of the solid universal laws in relationship to money, the easier it will become to step into the states of expectation and non-attachment.

So why does money flow in copious amounts if worthiness is present? When you are in a state of worthiness, you are in alignment with the vibration of love, which is equal to the vibration of money and money flows in abundant amounts.

To allow more flow, set an intention to dance between the following steps:

  1. Deepen your trust in the Universe and her natural laws.
  2. Let the growing trust move you in the direction of expectation of financial flow.
  3. Celebrate the flow of abundance in all its forms as it keeps showing up for you.
  4. Allow old beliefs to extinguish as you keep improving your financial flow — and consciously remove any beliefs that stubbornly continue to pop up for you.

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

A Tool to Align with Your Vision for Prosperity

Being in alignment with prosperity isn’t a one-time action.

Being in alignment is all about continuing to make the choice to have your emotions and your thoughts be in alignment with the vibration of prosperity.

Some days this is easy. Others, not so much.

Here is a visual tool to help you come into alignment:

Highest Vision

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

A Key to Blending Heart and Prosperity

One of the biggest stumbling blocks heart centered people run into as they ask to bring more prosperity into their lives is they don’t want to allow money to dominate their decisions or their passion. In other words, “I don’t want money to end up being my motivator.”

As I was beginning my business, I would have been the first to emphatically raise my hand if someone asked if this were a concern. After all, it feels like money and heart have absolutely nothing to do with each other.

Except, they actually have everything do with each other when you run a heart centered business.

The more you put the stop sign up for money, the more you are putting the stop sign up for flow in your business. The reason for this is: the fastest way to create flow in your heart centered business is to get really clear on the benefits of what you are offering others.

The more you have clarity on the benefits, the more you are able to a) amplify your belief in what you have to offer and b) amplify the expectation that what you offer will help those who are part of your tribe.

Belief and expectation is the engine of the Universe. These being-states are highly magnetic; they attract your tribe and your tribe honors your service through an exchange of money.

If you are consciously or unconsciously saying STAY AWAY MONEY, you are putting a huge kink in your flow of not only money, but also the people who you are here on this planet to serve.

You don’t need to make money your main motivator to allow more money to flow into your experience.

What you do get to do, if you are willing, is to have a better and better understanding of who you are as a Soul and what you are on this planet to offer. Spend your time amplifying your knowing of who you are. Stand firmly in your gifts and talents, and honor the transformation you are offering others. Not everyone will be interested and that is actually for the best. That simply means you are fully living YOU and attracting those who need your offer.

When you build your belief in yourself based on your gifts and talents at the soul level, ego gets to stay out of the picture. You offer your services from your heart and you get to fully enjoy the sumptuous life built from doing what you love and providing real, tangible transformation for those whose lives you touch.

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

The Downside of Setting an Intention (a Personal Story)

Don’t get me wrong. Having focus, purpose, and specific intentions is essential. Sometimes, however, the middle part between setting the intention and having it come to fruition is messy. And in that messiness, we can get so upside down we forget to continue on the path towards our intention.

Let me give you an example.

A couple of months ago, I spent time getting really clear about what I wanted for my business. Clarity about being seen. Clarity about who I wish to serve with my work. Clarity about loving and accepting my gifts fully and unapologetically. Clarity about how I wanted the business to give back to me, financially and in respect to time.

I felt uber good about the clarity. I felt focused, on purpose and clear about my intentions for the rest of the year. Part of my morning spiritual practice was spent envisioning and feeling this focus and purpose. I could literally feel the Universe rearranging itself to respond to my intention.

And then my personal life absolutely exploded.

My marriage of almost 25 years seemed to be crumbling right before my eyes. I could hardly recognize how either of us was being in relationship. In the space of just a few weeks, I felt like we had stepped on to an unstoppable train taking us directly towards divorce. This wasn’t what I wanted at all, and yet I knew there was no way to live with the situation as it was.

There was no way to be in the situation and be the person who could follow the intention she set with so much focus, purpose, and clarity. I had put a stake in the ground, so to speak, due to my intention and clarity and now it was time to choose how to honor that stake.

There was a point in the crumbling situation where my husband and I both had to stop and ask: what do we want to happen? It was truly a fish or cut bait moment. We were either in or out. And we each had to make that decision for ourselves.

As I allowed myself some quiet space to make my decision, the answer came to me quickly and with new clarity that I didn’t expect.

I knew, with my whole heart, that I was in. But it would require some letting go:

Letting go of how I thought life should and would be.
Letting go of some of the situations I have manifested.
Letting go of how he handles his life and decisions.
Letting go of my desire to “help.”
Letting go of my focus of what was wrong in our marriage and retraining the focus on what was right and what I wanted.

And then most eye opening for me:

Letting go of the story I told about how he lives life impacts my business.
Letting go of the story he has to be a certain way, so I can receive.
Letting go of the story my financial situation has anything to do with him.

And in these realizations, I witnessed the presence of the Universe, rearranging molecules to co-create my intentions with me. This is who I “needed” to be to allow the unfolding of what I really want.

Messy? Absolutely.
Divine? Definitely.

Could this have happened in a less painful way? Probably. However, I have been dealing with the entanglement of love and money issues for a long time. Honestly, it’s probably been since I was a young child. So there was a lot of energy tied up in this issue.

My husband and I are working through the relationship aspect of this unfolding. And I am doing the inner work to support BEING the me that supports the unfolding of my heart’s desires. Fortunately, these are unfolding in a harmonious way. I know that no matter what I am loved and supported, but being in this relationship is part of my heart’s desire.

I am deeply grateful we didn’t get so caught up in the messiness of this big shift that I lost complete connection to my intentions. I recognize the deep connections I have made to myself and my Soul as well as to my sacred practice all supported me in a profound way throughout this unfolding.

Keep setting intentions. Keep aligning more fully with who you are. And when life gets messy, allow that mess to lead you to an even deeper connection. Your heart’s desires are there in that alignment.

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

How Much Good Can You Hold?

I’ve been talking with so many clients over the last two weeks about the same topic:

How much good can you hold?
What’s your upper limit on happiness?

This sneaky, unconscious belief that there is a limit on the amount of happiness you can have in your day to day life limits your ability to expect what you want. When you can’t expect something, it is so much harder to manifest.

Consciously, we may say we want X, Y, and Z, but the unconscious mind says, “But at what cost? If I believe there is a limit on my good, it becomes dangerous to expect too much because I’ll lose something else.” Now self-sabotage becomes rampant.

Try this exercise:

Close your eyes and imagine a thermometer like measuring tool running up your core.

First, ask the Divine to show you what the measurement looks like if you were to have all the happiness in all the areas of your life that you desire.

Now ask the Divine to show you how much happiness you will allow.

What’s the difference between the two? Now you get to journal the answers to the following question:

What do I get to release to
allow more happiness in my daily life?

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

Today I Pause

The fastest way to manifest more of what you want is to appreciate what is already present. Often, though, we get caught up in what isn’t here yet.

Here is a reminder to put your focus on what you want.

Appreciate All I Have

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

A Person Like You…

One of the sneaky aspects about Law of Attraction (LOA) is this law is continually bringing you evidence to support whatever beliefs you hold. This is why it can feel so hard to shift into new ways of being and create new circumstances in your life, including in the area of prosperity.

Here’s one way to begin to illuminate those beliefs, which feel “normal” but are simply practiced thoughts shored up by evidence brought to you by LOA.

Take out a piece of paper and at the top write: It’s normal for a person like me to…

And now, simply begin to brainstorm. You could focus on certain areas.

It’s normal for a person like me to experience…
It’s normal for a person like me to experience money as…
It’s normal for a person like me to experience wealth as…
It’s normal for a person like me to experience relationships/love as…

As you read back through what came up, notice what themes are coming up. Pick a theme that is very prevalent and give yourself a new mantra to practice.

It is normal for someone like me to live with joy and ease.

It is normal for someone like me to have all parts of my life fit in harmoniously.

It is normal for someone like me to have all the money to pay for my bills and desires with a comfortable overage.

It is normal for someone like me to have a tribe of followers who love my work.

It is normal for someone like me to have others seek me out to work with me.

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

What holds back your prosperity?

I don’t often ask others to be disconnected from their Truth, but for just a moment, allow yourself to shift into your most disconnected, ego and fear based view of the world.

And now, ask this question, “What is responsible for holding back my money, my prosperity?”

  • Government (taxation, laws, etc.)?
  • Religion (tithing, celebrating poverty while tearing down people with wealth)?
  • Time?
  • Family responsibilities?
  • Your family of origin beliefs and rhetoric?
  • Your employer?
  • Fill in the blank ______________ ?

So many of us still have the belief that money is sourced from the outside and therefore outside forces have the power to take money away from us. They have the power to deny us what is rightfully ours.

Now, connect with your sacred partnership with money — either directly if you know your partnership languages, or by simply connecting with the Divine and ask this question, “What is the true source of my money, my prosperity?”

Here is what I hear every single time I meet with money: Source is the source of money. You, and only you, are in charge of the amount of financial flow in your life.

In a quiet moment today, I invite you to ask money to help you see what you are ready to either let go of or activate in your partnership to allow a greater flow.

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.