End Money Damsel in Distress Syndrome

Have you ever sat alone at night and wished for the winning lottery ticket numbers?

Have you ever begged, cajoled, or demanded the Universe just GIVE you the money already?

If so, you might have “damsel in distress” syndrome.

This morning I was thinking about some habitual thoughts that have poked their heads up from time to time for me and suddenly, I realized with those thoughts, I was acting like a damsel in distress.

That was a really uncomfortable awareness.

I am a strong, independent woman. I am at Mt. Holyoke graduate. I’m a freaking double Huntress (in the Soul Language paradigm). And I was waiting for money to save me.

Part of me saw money as the knight in shining armor. The one that was going to erase all the pain. The one that was going to erase all the suffering.

But it wasn’t showing up the way I wanted it to. And it made me feel like I had been left behind by the universe. That I was the “broken” cog in the giant Universal wheel.

However, what I can see now is money was being my knight in shining armor, just in a different way than I had ever imagined.

Because I didn’t win the lottery, because I didn’t get some crazy influx of cash, I had to do the only thing that was really ever going to work in the first place: I had to change my relationship with money.

I had to honor my own connection with divinity. I had to claim my gifts. I had to claim my voice. I had to show up in a clear current and conscious way with money.

Doing this has led to infinitely more happiness than simply being gifted the money.  Not because it was harder, but rather because it reconnected me with the true source of my Beingness.  From that connection, all is possible — money and more.

Do you know that scene in Pretty Woman? The one at the very end where Richard Gere is climbing up the fire escape with the umbrella and bouquet of flowers, terrified of heights but doing it anyway?

Julia Roberts meets him halfway down. He asks, “What’s next, after the brave prince has rescued the princess,” and she says, “She rescues him right back.”

Relationship.  Connection.  Showing up.  Consciousness. Being a true partner with money.

That’s the powerful antidote to damsel in distress syndrome.

Jennifer Bloome is a Soul Abundance Guide, Energy Healer, and Master Soul Language Practitioner. She teaches people a new language to communicate directly with their Soul, so they create a flow of Soul-Based Abundance that is in alignment with their gifts, talents and true nature. Ready to learn the language of your Soul? Sign up for a free Money Language Translation Session to learn one of the money languages of your Soul.

Do You Get the Money, or Do I?

In our culture, money is set up as either / or:

Either I believe in complete selfishness and act as though all money should be mine, or I am completely selfless and give it all away.

Either I get the money… or you do.

Soul-based Abundance allows us to find the middle ground: I can have an exquisite life experience and so can you.

I can be open to receive my good AND still be mindful of who I want to be to allow good to flow through me to others.

The word that springs to mind is: Interconnected.

But even interconnection depends on me using my resources to make myself as strong as I can. Depleted energy can’t give.

The amazing aspect of money to remember is that it is simply another form of the Divine. The Divine is limitless, right? As we “use” the knowing that money is of the Divine to fuel our receiving, we can rest in the knowing there is an unlimited amount left for everyone else.

I am not a church-goer, but the image this brings up for me is a Sunday morning. Think of the tens of thousands of people in church across the United States, connecting to and drawing on the Divine in those hours of the morning.

Does that mean there is less Divine for me to access when I am at the shores of my favorite lake in those exact same hours? I can tell you from personal experience that is not the case.

We are all drawing from the same interconnected web that is the Divine in those moments. And there is an unlimited amount left in the Divine’s tank.

Money can be exactly the same.

For you and for me.

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

A Story of Inner Abundance in Action

One of the concepts I teach is about “Being the Energy of the Solution.”

In short, Universal Law says for everything that has been created, it’s equal and opposite has been created too. For every problem, there is a solution. When you ask to be the energy of the solution, you are setting yourself up to receive answers.

But what if solutions came before you even knew there were problems?

Being connected with your Inner Abundance means being connected with your divine essence. Connected with your piece of the Divine. Knowing without question who you really are and tapping into all the resources of the Divine. Engaging with this part of you allows life to flow with the assistance of the Divine, instead of pushing and struggling to MAKE things happen with only your effort.

When you flow with the Divine, you are open to receive solutions before problems.

Here’s a great example:

My youngest daughter, Sarah, is a High School Senior and we’ve been neck deep in the college hunt for over a year now.

Early in January, we made a decision to take a last minute visit to Case Western Reserve University where she has already been accepted with a lovely scholarship.

I quickly signed us up for a general admissions visit and campus tour. Sarah is interested in surgical nursing, but they didn’t have a tour set up for the day we were going. So, I reached out directly, and they graciously set up a private tour a couple hours after the general visit.

Perfect. Everything was in place, including our plane tickets.

The day before we leave, I’m printing out parking passes and they have the wrong date for the nursing tour. It’s set up for Thursday when it was supposed to be Friday. I go through my e-mail and discover it’s MY error. I told them we would be there Friday, January 11th. But Friday is the 12th. So they went with the 11th.

Panic set in. That was the whole reason we were going and if we couldn’t have a tour, it would be a waste. Deep breaths. Asking to be the energy of the solution.

Once centered, I called and explained the situation. I asked for a Friday tour, but no one was available. We negotiated a bit and they set us up for late Thursday, right after our flight was due to come in. Not ideal, but a solution. I thought that was magical and that THIS was a demonstration from the Universe. But there was so much more to come!

Our fight into Cleveland was easy, we easily made our tour time. It was an AMAZING experience.

Friday comes and we head to the general admissions visit and campus tour. It is 57 and raining. Over the next two hours, it was forecasted to drop to 30 and ice. We get to the admissions house and were told they will do an abbreviated presentation, but no tour because they are closing the University.

If we had the tour scheduled as I has originally set up, we never would have had it.

The Universe orchestrated a solution to a problem that I didn’t know existed — how could I know that on the day we visited, the University would close? Something that happens more rarely than a Blue Moon?

I just love demonstrations from the Universe.

I will not pretend I have all of this completely figured out.

But what I do know for sure is the more deeply I connect with my own Inner Abundance, the more I allow the Divine to thread through me in a way that allows co-creation, the more life unfolds with joy and richness of all kinds.

What solutions would you like to show up for you?

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

What Does Money “Fix” For You?

If you were to open your door tomorrow morning and find a suitcase full of tens of millions of dollars… what would that “fix” in your life?

Allow you the opportunity to do the work you are truly passionate about?
Create a feeling of sweet relief?
Live up to the agreements you have with others?  Erase debts?
Finally have evidence that all the “being good” has been rewarded?
Allow joy and fun back into daily life?
Create a sense of safety on this planet?

I know YOU know that money doesn’t create happiness.

But we still hold out for money to fix our lives.  At some level, money is the knight in shining armor that is going to save us from our own lives.

Money has some big shoulders and can take whatever we put on it.  But it also is bound by the same energetic principles as the rest of the Universe.

When we need money to fix our life — when we yearn for the safety of money — when we won’t be happy until we are doing work we are passionate about and can’t do the work we are passionate about until we have money — we are focusing on what we don’t have and that is what gets amplified in our lives.

The key, then, is to separate your understanding of who you are and your intrinsic worthiness and value from money.  To love who you are, to know you are enough, right here and now — regardless of your bank account or the amount of your debt.

I don’t mean hate on money or to build up a belief living without is the “right” way to live.

No. I mean to have a deep love of yourself, radiate your Inner Capital right now and release all need for money to fix you or your life.  Spend time loving money for itself.  For the fun.  For the lightness.  For the joy.

With the resistance to money gone, money has the energetic space to flow to you.

Let it in!

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

Politics, Money, and Love

I’m not really one to get too political. I choose that mostly because I know we create the strongest influence in the direction we want by holding our own centers; BEING the change we want to see in the world (and then taking inspired action). I can’t follow the political “game” and hold my center. So, normally, I don’t.

However these are not normal times.

The political climate is filled with so much hate, classism, and what feels like down-right meanness. And, so much of it is driven by greed. Money (and the power that comes with it).

Perhaps that is an oversimplification and I know there are other driving forces, but I am struck by what people do to other people for the sake of money. I find myself wanting to say human beings can be so cruel.

Rocks my ability to hold my center, truth be told.

And yet here’s what I know. If I lose my center, I contribute to the “madness” of the world by adding my anxiety and fear to the Collective. That doesn’t serve me and it doesn’t do anything to serve the world.

So what do I do? What’s anyone to do?

What if we all learned to bring ourselves and our relationship with money up into the consciousness of Love? I’m not talking romantic love, I’m talking about the consciousness of Love. What David Hawkins defines as one of the higher level emotions connected with power. Here’s what he says about Love:

Love is a state of being. It’s a forgiving, nurturing, and supportive way of relating to the world. Love isn’t intellectual and doesn’t proceed from the mind; Love emanates from the heart. It has the capacity to lift others and accomplish great feats because of its purity of motive.

If we would tolerate no less than the consciousness of love in our interactions with money, what would that do to the world around us? With enough momentum, I believe it would radically change the world in which we all live. Imagine the consciousness of Love living everywhere where there was greed, anger, shame, and power-grabbing?

A naïve view? I used to think so. But I believe that is the purpose of this time. To create SO much contrast that we have to make a shift.

And it starts with me. And with you. And with our individual relationships or agreements with money. The beauty of this process is the more you shift toward Love, the more abundance naturally finds its way to you. Not a bad side effect, eh?

What are you willing to change in your agreement with money to move closer to the consciousness of Love?

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

Can You Negotiate with Money?

Knowing Universal Law is liberating and infuriating all at the same time.

I remember talking with one of my very first mentors and he was telling me about the “freedom” I had because I created my own reality.

Reluctantly, I considered his words.

While it did seem exciting, the weight of the world seemed to settle around my shoulders.  What an incredible amount of responsibility.  Only myself to blame if things didn’t turn out in joyful ways.

So I resisted for a while. And then I became curious and started asking many “why” questions.

Why would I have created this situation or that situation?  Why was this painful situation something I’d create?

Those questions led to a deeper understanding of my own personal gifts and life mission, but also, an understanding that we often create (mostly unconscious) agreements.

Agreements about how we will be treated in relationships.
Agreements about how happy we can be on a daily basis.
Agreements about how successful we’ll be.

And yes, agreements about how much money or abundance we will allow in our lives.

Too often we think these agreements are in our lives because of the fault of other people: the government, our extended family, socio-economic realities, the general unfairness of life.

In reality, the agreements are formed with our wounded Self.  The one who looks at the world through outdated beliefs, pain/knowledge that is passed down in our DNA from generations past, the one who made decisions about him/herself because of early experiences.

The agreements are largely invisible because we get so caught up in the physical reality they create that they seem impenetrable.  Unmovable.  Unchangeable.  It’s just the way life is.

And yet, every agreement can be re-negotiated.

Even the amount of abundance in your life.

If you were to take a big picture view of how abundance shows up in your life, what agreement do you think you have with money?

With love and compassion for what you’ve created, are you ready to re-negotiate?

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

Become a Clear Beacon

Money and prosperity are an inside job. The more you embody your own Inner Capital, the more access you have to the internal seeds that will yield abundant prosperity in your day-to-day external world. The more you embody your Inner Capital, the more visible you become to those whom you are best suited to serve.

Sometimes it helps to have a visual reminder:

Inner Capital Love

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

Finding New Avenues to Abundance

Let’s imagine for a moment your beliefs shape your experience here on planet Earth (and they do).

Now, let’s imagine you are someone for whom abundance is easy, joyful, and completely supportive of your Soul’s work (and you are wired for it, by the way).

What else would that someone believe?

Would your beliefs lean towards lack or fullness?
Would your beliefs lean towards connected or isolated?
Would your beliefs lean towards past or future?

Abundance does not require one specific set of beliefs beyond an expectation of having wealth / money / riches.

You could be the most hateful, isolated, mean-spirited person and still have an abundance of wealth.

Money doesn’t care.

But those of us who are heart and soul centered DO tend to care.

So I’ll ask again: If you are someone for whom abundance is easy, joyful, and completely supportive of your Soul’s work, what would your non-wealth specific beliefs trend towards?

The Divine has my back
Everything works out for me
Feeling good is my number one priority
Feeling joyful is my “set point” emotion
Reality is simply old beliefs made manifest
I am forming my new reality with my new thoughts
I am ecstatic about where I am
I am ecstatic about what’s on its way to me

These beliefs are as much avenues to creating wealth in your life as repeating affirmations about money itself.

I invite you to notice how you feel as you read through the list of beliefs. Where do you fall on making these — or ones similar — your standard, default beliefs?

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

Money vs Inner Capital Expressed

So many people are teaching about creating money, have you noticed? I certainly have.

Honestly, much of what’s out there falls flat for me. What I’ve noticed about spiritually based entrepreneurs (meaning an entrepreneur whose personal “come-from” is heart and soul based, but whose business doesn’t necessarily have to look “spiritual”) is that we balk at just “making money.”

We want our money to come through our service to the world.

On the one hand, this can create energy blocks around money because we are placing limits on how we receive.

On the other hand, if we truly understand the Inner Capital model, this sets us up to create an amazing amount of money by being our heart and soul based selves.

When you learn money follows amplifying your own understanding of and belief in your own Inner Capital, you have all you need to create a flow of financial abundance, which supports you AND flows in harmony with all of your values.

What are you willing to love about your own Inner Capital today?

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.

Shameless… A Personal Story

Every chance I get, I share that money is a teacher.

Class was certainly in session for me this week. I had a situation happen around receiving money from other people that created an overwhelming wave of shame.

Shame is an emotion that hasn’t been connected with money for me for a very long time. I thought I’d “fixed” this.

(Hint: if you find yourself angry because you’re experiencing an emotion or a particular type of life event… stop yourself as soon as possible.

Being “fixed” is a mindset that perpetuates the idea you were broken in the first place. While we are human, we are the proverbial onions. At the core of the onion is our deepest wound, which draws experiences, emotions, and situations that mimic the core.

The more re-connected we become, the more layers of the onion become exposed and look familiar. Fear not. You are doing nothing wrong. You are stepping more completely into the fullness of your being. When you look at the layer with curiosity you will hear the next divinely inspired step to reclaim your wholeness.)

After a few ugly-cry minutes, I took a breath, engaged my tools, and had a HUGE ah-ha.

The shame was coming from a young part of me that was having trouble feeling enough. I asked that part, “At that time, who was I measuring myself against?” The two people who popped up in my mind weren’t a surprise, but the thought associated with them was new.

It was true; I wasn’t enough for them — and that’s okay.

Better stated: I wasn’t enough compared with them — and that’s a good thing.

Best stated: I wasn’t them. Freedom.

At that time in my life, I compared how I showed up in the world versus how they showed up in the world, and concluded I was lacking. At some level I decided that different = not enough.

From my vantage point today, I can tell that part of me: I was never meant to be them. I wasn’t enough compared to them and that’s a GOOD thing. We are all unique beings. If we measured enoughness based on our similarities, the world would be an incredibly boring place.

Our enoughness comes from our Soul-derived-being and the fact we are of the Divine. Our expression of the Divine is always going to be different from everyone else. Young souls can confuse “different” and “enough.”

How this relates to money: We often limit our receiving because at some level we (unconsciously) don’t feel deserving, or enough to receive. This old part of me was still resisting receiving until I was “enough” based on old standards that were never mine to use anyway.

Now that I have re-integrated that part of me, I feel a fullness that wasn’t present before and an even deeper level of knowing of my own Inner Capital. I’ve re-opened a channel of receiving and am shameless (in the best way possible!).

The lessons aren’t always comfortable, but money is an amazing catalyst and teacher. What is money teaching you that you are ready to embody today?

Jennifer Bloome is the Fertile Business Midwife. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperous, fertile, Soul-satisfying life and business they desire. Ready to transform? Visit JenniferBloome.com to set up your complimentary Belief Discovery Session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks that are keeping you from your own prosperous life.