Only one person gets to feel worthy
Anyone else here a Tournament of Champions fan?
For those unfamiliar, TOC is set up like a sports bracket. 32 chefs are divided into 4 regions. Over the course of many weeks, pairs of Chefs battle by cooking dishes whose components are determined by a randomizer.
This past weekend was the final.
Throughout this season, I was struck by the similar message coming from each Chef. When asked why they wanted to win, to a person, they said, “I’ve been grinding and pushing for so long. Getting this title would prove that what I’ve done is important. It will prove that what I am doing is worthy.”
The thing is, only 1 of 32 Chefs won the title this week.
Everyone else lost. Only one person was ever going to be validated. Does that negate the journey of 31 people?
Of course not, that’s absurd. And yet, so many of us get caught in these same two traps:
- As a culture, we live under extraordinary pressure to prove our worth. But not just to ourselves. We want to prove it to other people. We use every external measuring stick possible to prove our worthiness so that other people can see and know our value.
Body size. Cooking competitions. Number of friends. Age. Number of wrinkles. Hours in the gym. Number of followers. Hours spent working.
Money.
Whether we think it is right or not, we judge ourselves and others by the size of our bank accounts. The bigger the business, the more we attribute success to it.
Think you’ve healed that?
Do you feel more valuable during a week when you sign new clients?
Do you feel more successful the higher your retirement account balance?
It’s baked into our consciousness.
- We value our success more when it comes with some (or maybe a lot of) blood, sweat, and tears. Sure, we occasionally enjoy a good Cinderella story, but more often than not, we really admire and root for people like the TOC chefs who have spent a lifetime grinding and pushing.
Because our Universe is set up like a great big mirror and because money itself has no free will (and follows ours), these two traps wreak havoc with your money flow and bank account. We yearn for financial freedom, but our internal programming shouts NO THAT’S NOT SAFE. How will I be worthy? How will I be judged?
Stepping into true financial freedom requires an internal shift to claim your inherent worthiness because you are divinity itself. To separate honing your craft from pushing and grinding so that you can enjoy that financial freedom.
Ready to take that journey? Set up time on my calendar, and let’s talk possibilities.