You Must Let the Goodness In

Creating what you want is more about capacity than strategy. If you want abundance as your lived experience (not just bursts from time to time), putting attention on your internal architecture for holding goodness is a must.

But before I tell you more about this, can we talk? Human to human?

I don’t know about you, but even thinking about holding goodness is beyond challenging right now. Living in the suburbs of Minneapolis-St. Paul means that the very air is charged with fear, anxiety, pain, uncertainty, and anger. The events of last weekend broke my thin veneer of coping. My mind couldn’t begin to make sense of what I saw, of the disregard for human life, of the blatant lies being circulated as absolutes.

And yet, crumbling under the weight of the chaos does not do my community or me any good.

My toolbox of coping skills has gotten quite a workout. I found the most effective tool is one I share with my clients all the time: starting at the eyebrow EFT point, I tap with the phrase, “I remind my brain and my nervous system that I am safe.” At times, I used that tool a dozen times in 15 minutes.

Listen, I don’t have any magic wands or answers for all that humanity is facing right now – and I am in the middle of the muck just like all of my neighbors here in Minnesota, in the country, and the world over.

But here’s what I do know.

We cannot allow what’s happening externally restructure our internal environment. Yes, we get to experience all of the hard emotions and express them in productive ways. But we cannot allow the hard emotions to harden our internal architecture; to become the scaffolding from which we live.

Even in these unprecedented times, we must find a way to hold the goodness that life has to offer: love, beauty, ease, wealth, freedom. This is NOT to keep us separate from what the greater community is facing, but rather to be our most aligned selves and meeting the world from there. When we each become a committment to this way of living, we create an amazing amount of momentum towards the world we want to live in. Our external actions become that much more precise and effective.

What is the state of your internal architecture for holding goodness?

Here are five questions you can ask yourself to get a better understanding of your internal architecture:

• Do you keep reaching for more, but feel uncertain when it begins to arrive?
• When something good happens, do you immediately brace or start managing?
• Do you treat support, ease, or abundance as temporary, almost like it could disappear?
• Have you learned to shrink what you want so it won’t hurt or disappoint?
• Do you live in a cycle of rise → fall → rebuild, even when things start improving?

Over the next few weeks, I’ll have a lot more to say about inner architecture, how to shore it up, and how you and I can work together so that you can create the inner architecture that makes abundance your lived experience (and if you would like a sneak peek of that work, click here)