Shed Your False Money Fears
Let’s talk money, fear, and pain. We will start with pain, and I promise you, it will support your bank account. Stay with me.
Have you heard of neuroplastic pain?
If you’ve ever dealt with chronic pain, you may have been introduced to the concept. In a nutshell, neuroplastic pain happens when the brain accidentally gets itself into a loop where it misinterprets normal body signals as pain. This is why some chronic pain patients (of which I am one) cannot find relief in ‘standard’ treatments.
The way out of neuroplastic pain is first to create a deep sense of calm and safety in the body and then bring your attention to the pain so that the brain learns to stop labeling sensations in your body as pain.
A deep experience of safety is absolutely key. Your brain cannot learn something new unless it feels safe. The fear and anxiety produced by long-standing pain keep the brain in fight-or-flight mode, not safety. Constantly looking for the next new treatment method keeps the brain out of safety as well.
What does this have to do with money?
How often are you looking for the next way to ‘get ahead’ with money?
How often are you scanning for potential money ‘threats’?
How often are you waiting for the other shoe to drop on your bank account?
How often are you approaching the next big uplevel of your abundance from a place of fear and worry?
If you have any of these money habits, you have money and fear completely intertwined. Your brain cannot approach anything money-related without engaging your fight-or-flight system. You are in a brain based money fear loop.
While you are in this loop:
You could have the best plan for your business, but your money fear will sabotage the launch or the follow-through.
You could have millions in retirement, but you will never commit to retiring because of the “what ifs”
You could be ready for the next big investment (a new house, a big vacation, a non-profit arm of your business) but you won’t be able to do the steady steps to create it.
Your brain will continue to interpret *anything* related to money as dangerous.
Energetically, you have the door slammed shut to any new flow of finances or other divine support.
The way out of the loop is not to think harder, plan better, or find the perfect strategy. Rather, the way out of the loop is to help your brain and nervous system learn that money is not an emergency, money is not a threat to your survival.
Here are three simple ways to begin unwinding the money–fear loop on your own:
- Interrupt the urgency before you engage with money. Before checking your bank account, opening an invoice, or making a money decision, pause for 30–60 seconds and focus on slowing your breath. Even this brief pause helps signal safety to the brain and reduces the automatic fight-or-flight response that keeps fear in charge.
- Name the fear instead of arguing with it. When money anxiety shows up, try saying (silently or out loud): “This is fear, not danger.” You are not trying to get rid of the fear, just correctly label it. This simple distinction helps the brain stop escalating the threat response.
- Practice neutral attention with money. Choose one small money interaction like reviewing a bill, transferring money, or looking at numbers, and intentionally stay present without fixing, planning, or catastrophizing. The goal is not positivity, but neutrality. Each neutral interaction teaches your brain that money can be engaged without harm.
These practices may seem simple, but they work because they create a safety-first approach. And safety is what allows the brain to learn something new.
If you recognize yourself in this pattern and want support unwinding it more directly, I offer a private EFT session called Money & Fear.
This session is designed to work with the fear response itself so that money no longer automatically activates anxiety, control, or avoidance.
It’s a calm, focused space to step out of the loop and begin relating to money differently.
You can learn more or schedule a session here.
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