3 Don’ts and 1 Do
I talked with a good friend last week. In a moment of pure frustration over her finances not changing, she said, “I’m SO TIRED OF FOCUSING.”
What she meant was: I’m so tired of trying to create the conditions that will get me what I want and STILL not getting what I want.
And what I heard under that was: I am so tired of fighting against the physical evidence of not being enough.
If it is true that we live in an attraction-based Universe (and it is) AND if it is true that we have experiences that match the feeling/vibrational state created by our thoughts (and it is) then it is also true that we must find a way to be the vibrational/frequency match of what we want.
Why is it so hard to create the thought/emotional environment that creates what you want instead of what you don’t want?
- You have thousands of neuronal connections dedicated to the old thought patterns of fear, worry, anxiety, what-if-ing, or whatever your particular pattern of thought that keeps you in the same loop of receiving the old crap.
- You have many subconscious patterns dedicated to guarding against new patterns because, to that part of your brain, it feels like imminent survival issues (aka DEATH) if you have a behavior that is in opposition to the older beliefs.
- You have made decisions about yourself based on the fact that you *still* haven’t created what you want. Those decisions are heart-wrenching, full of shame, and act like anchors into your present experience.
- You have tried to ACT your way into a new pattern. But you’ve taken that action from the emotional soup of hoping, wishing, yearning, none of which are a vibrational match to what you want to create.
- It’s freakin’ HARD and exhausting to hold space for the new when the old has repeated over and over and over.
So what do you do? How do you get out of this cycle and into a cycle of receiving abundance?
~ Stop trying to be positive. Stop pushing down the feelings. Let them out. See them. Hear them. Let that part of you rage and be seen and be acknowledged.
~ Stop trying to make it all happen at once. We want the big gush of finances so that we can finally stop feeling the pain of not having them. And, that’s not how it works. Not just because even if you get that gush, you will eventually need another one, but because when you wait to feel good until you have what you want, you hold yourself in limbo. Purgatory, actually, because that’s more painful than limbo.
~ Stop the perpetual action. Yes, action is a part of creating, but it is the *final* step. Action without divine connection is like running on a treadmill expecting to be in a different country when you’ve finished.
~ Do offer yourself love and compassion, right now, before anything changes. Offer yourself softness. Understanding. You cannot withhold love and receive. Receiving requires an open heart.
From this open-hearted space, now you get to connect and ask for your next being and doing step. You have the clarity to see the underlying patterns that have stopped your receiving and you can choose your new pattern.
Now you have the momentum towards what you want AND the focus to keep that momentum building.
For support in taking these steps, join me in the Sumptuous Receiver program.
I look forward to supporting you in your receiving.