When Mentors are Wrong

Mentors. When you find a phenomenal one, oh, the difference they can make in your business.

I’ve had many mentors in my 10+ years of business. The really amazing ones have been able to (seemingly) effortlessly blend supporting me with helping me see my opportunities for growth. And yes, that’s absolutely a euphemism for something that’s a bit difficult and painful at first!

I know without a doubt I wouldn’t be where I am without these mentors.

At the same time, though, I can see when I have given too much power to my mentors. I have taken their knowledge, their opinions, and valued it much more highly than my own intuition.

This is trickier than perhaps it looks on the surface.

When you work with mentors, you are paying them to see your blind spots. You are paying them to give you information based on their wisdom. You are paying them because they have walked the path before you and can share the potholes they ran into, so you don’t have to make the same mistakes.

Because of this, some of what they present to you is going to be difficult. Their suggestions are going to create all kinds of emotions within you. Perhaps it raises some fear because you are being asked to step out of your comfort zone. Perhaps it raises some anger initially—how can that possibly be right?

When they are on target, you’ll discover underneath those emotions there’s a part of you that deeply resonates with what they say. You follow through on their advice because you know when you follow through; you will experience success and a huge ah-ha.

What happens, though, when there isn’t one part of you that resonates with the information they are sharing?

What happens when every cell of your being revolts against what is being presented?

Is it a really huge growth opportunity? Or are they simply wrong?

How can you tell?

The first step is to take those mentors down off their pedestals (and the really good ones never asked you to put them up there in the first place!). After all, your mentor is going to see everything through their own filters, through their own beliefs, through their own experiences. It doesn’t matter how perfect the match is between you and your mentor; they aren’t you.

Second, it is imperative you know how to check in with the deepest part of yourself—how to get in connection with that part of yourself that isn’t blinded by beliefs, old memories, and other gunk.

When you can communicate with this deep part of yourself, you will be able to tell without a doubt whether you are facing a growth opportunity, or whether it’s time to tell that mentor, “no, you are wrong about this.”

I recently had the opportunity to be in this situation.

I’ve gotten pretty good at choosing mentors, so this doesn’t happen to me much anymore. But, I will be honest and say this particular situation blindsided me; I wasn’t expecting it at all, so I had a LOT of emotion.

Now that I’ve had some time—and the gift of some really amazing energy clearing—I can see the gift of the whole situation. I was able to even more strongly step into communication with the deepest part of myself.

I was able to dive more deeply in knowing how to value my own thoughts and opinions over the strong words and opinions of another. To be able to step up and say, “No, I think you’re wrong.” I wish I had been able to do it with more grace and elegance, but I did get the words out and can feel my strengthening belief in my own value.

That is a huge parting gift from this mentor.

How about you? How are you able to stand up for your own value? How well do you do telling someone else, “You’re wrong?”

Jennifer Bloome is the Prosperity Alignment Healer. Jennifer helps people identify and heal the blocks that are keeping them from the prosperity they desire. Ready to heal? Email to schedule a free 30-minute “get acquainted” session to begin to identify and heal your personal blocks.

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